Qualities that make you unstoppable

He was pinned down with a gun pressed against his cheek. Stood humiliated in front of his children as things were thrown out of his home.

Mr Thapa, a close friend of my father, had borrowed lakhs of money to purchase his dream house. The plan was simple and successful for some months. Pay the interest by renting out two rooms.

On one nightmarish day, half a dozen people came to his house and demanded the proof that the house in which he had been living belonged to him. He showed them the registration papers, which he then learned were all fake.

Flabbergasted, he ran to the government office to check whether it’s true or not. People were the same, and the papers were the same too, but his name was missing in the official government papers.

The information spread like a fire in a jungle. Before he could even bring himself to terms with reality, money lenders were all over him, humiliating him and asking for their money back.

He did the maths. He had a not so good paying job; he had to pay to the lenders with interest and also some extra rent to avoid being homeless. Even if he paid eighty per cent of his salary, he would have to pay for all his life.

He asked his wife to go and live at her parents’ house till he brought things to normal. On the night she left, he didn’t stay at home too. He roamed on the deserted roads with chaos in his head and restlessness in his soul.

Exhausted, he went to some park and sat like a butchered tree. Dawn was about to break, and joggers had started to enter the park. Mr Malhotra, a senior man, noticed this unfamiliar face and came to him to ask his whereabouts.

He didn’t answer any questions asked by Mr Malhotra first, but when Mr Malhotra insisted, he opened up. Malhotra left only to come back with the cheque of twenty-five lakhs. Thapa was astounded to see this gesture and felt he was mocking at him.

On the other hand, Mr Malhotra was severe. “Go get rid of your debts, start your own business and pay me back only when you have.”, Malhotra said. Mr Thapa was unable to understand what is happening in his life. A few hours back people were thirsty for his blood for money and now this strange man, who doesn’t even know where he lives or whether he is telling the truth, is giving him money without any condition.

On the other hand, Mr Malhotra was severe. “Go get rid of your debts, start your own business and pay me back only when you have.”, Malhotra said. Mr Thapa was unable to understand what is happening in his life. A few hours back people were thirsty for his blood for money and now this strange man, who doesn’t even know where he lives or whether he is telling the truth, is giving him money without any condition.

He didn’t go home but went straight to bank and waited for it to open. When the bank began to function, he didn’t go to clear the cheque but returned home. “If a man who doesn’t know me can put so much trust on me, why can’t I have faith in myself”, he thought.

For the next five years, he worked very hard, got rid of his debts, bought a home and made a name for himself. All this time, the cheque was in his wallet. He made a habit to see it in times of self-doubt. When he shifted to his new place, he decided to go and return the cheque to Mr Malhotra.

After five years he was back to the same park with the cheque in his hand and smile on his face. When he saw Mr Malhotra at the park gate with a young man, he couldn’t hide his excitement and ran towards him to greet. Mr Malhotra didn’t recognise him.

Contrary to Mr Thapa’s zeal, Mr Malhotra wasn’t a bit cordial. He was irked by Thapa for trying to come close to him. The young man intervened in a moment of heat and asked Mr Thapa what he was up to. Mr Thapa introduced himself just like any other well-wisher and told him that he was there to return the cheque.

The young man took the cheque in his hand, scrutinised it and told Mr Thapa, “He was a very successful businessman in his younger days. But, after major losses to his company, he became bankrupt. He developed a mental disorder and now goes around offering cheques to people who are in need. What you had with you till now was always a bounced cheque. Thank god you didn’t encash it.”

Mr Thapa was stunned.

I have heard this story thousands of times and yet every time I listen to it, I get mesmerised by the fact what wonders self-belief can do. The only thing that remains unobserved in this entire story is the five -year struggle of Mr Thapa and how he achieved what he did. To know this, I went to meet him once. I asked about his battle. He revealed six qualities to me which according to him made him unstoppable.

Be a people’s man (or woman)

The key behind this is a communication skill strong enough for a smooth interflow of understanding. The other person should know and understand what you want to communicate and vice versa. As in the field of Data Science, it is essential to understand the needs of the clients and communicate them further to your team.

Perseverance and persistence

You will find yourself in hot waters more often than not. DO NOT give up.

Learning

It is vital to always enjoy learning new things and the process of learning, in the same breath. Data Science is an ever-evolving field which would require you to keep yourself updated with new technologies and the latest developments.

Switch your brain on and off

It is crucial to give yourself timely breaks from the maddening world. One must know how to detach and relax. Archimedes got his idea while taking a dip in the tub.

Taking the initiative

If ever a loose thread opens up, take the initiative and put things into place. Never be afraid of experimentation. Bring yourself out of the comfort zone and try new things.

If you are Mr Thapa or you know any, please leave your story in comments.

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Harsh Bhojwani

Hi, I'm Harsh Bhojwani, an aspiring blogger with an obsession for all things related to Data Science. This blog is dedicated to helping people learn Data Science.

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